Ah so much! I had the exact same thoughts, and PCOS diagnosis too before having my kids. I’ve leaned into motherhood on the day to day but it doesn’t define my whole identity. You might be saying goodbye to versions of yourself that you imagined but there’s possibly this new third version who’s knackered but resilient, scared but hopeful and still very multifaceted (most mums actually are!), parenting in a way you didn’t even know you would until being in the thick of it. I love being a mum but I also totally get people’s choice not to and sometimes find myself jealous of their spontaneity (and bank balance!) but mourning that is always short lived because like you said, either way life can be amazing if you make it. If you do choose this path, I highly recommend fertility reflexology with PCOS.
I was having (am having?) a lot of these thoughts - I found The Panic Years by Nell Frizzell so helpful to make sense of some of the stuff that seemed to be forever looping around in my head x
Thank you so much for sharing. Life as I knew it fell apart when I turned 30 after my partner confirmed he didn’t want kids despite us thinking we would have them. The biological body clock mental pressure is huge but it’s not our entire world. Your world will be beautiful no matter what you choose to do and when you do it. Look after yourself and try not to get caught in the mind trap of analysing time. Thanks for sharing. Your vulnerability and truth helps decrease the stigma so many of us are feeling. ❤️
Ah so much! I had the exact same thoughts, and PCOS diagnosis too before having my kids. I’ve leaned into motherhood on the day to day but it doesn’t define my whole identity. You might be saying goodbye to versions of yourself that you imagined but there’s possibly this new third version who’s knackered but resilient, scared but hopeful and still very multifaceted (most mums actually are!), parenting in a way you didn’t even know you would until being in the thick of it. I love being a mum but I also totally get people’s choice not to and sometimes find myself jealous of their spontaneity (and bank balance!) but mourning that is always short lived because like you said, either way life can be amazing if you make it. If you do choose this path, I highly recommend fertility reflexology with PCOS.
I was having (am having?) a lot of these thoughts - I found The Panic Years by Nell Frizzell so helpful to make sense of some of the stuff that seemed to be forever looping around in my head x
Such a good book! Nell Frizzell is brilliant
Thank you so much for sharing. Life as I knew it fell apart when I turned 30 after my partner confirmed he didn’t want kids despite us thinking we would have them. The biological body clock mental pressure is huge but it’s not our entire world. Your world will be beautiful no matter what you choose to do and when you do it. Look after yourself and try not to get caught in the mind trap of analysing time. Thanks for sharing. Your vulnerability and truth helps decrease the stigma so many of us are feeling. ❤️